ADVICE FOR A YOUNGER ME

I’d tell “younger me” that life goes on.  The sun will keep rising whether you want it to or not.  What matters so crushingly today…you might not even REMEMBER in a year.

Not choosing to take action is, in itself, a choice.  Use your choices, but use them wisely.

Always go for quality, not quantity.  Unless it’s cash…

Conversely, don’t be afraid to skrew up.  Even opting for the wrong course of action is educational so long as you “learn and leave it”.

Learn how to really, actually, honestly forgive yourself, and get over it.  The past is in the past FOR A REASON.  Leave it there!!!

NEVER, EVER lose your sense of the ridiculous, your sense of humor.  It alone will save your sanity more times that you’ll care to know.

All things can change in the blink of an eye, for better and or for worse.  Prepare for the upcoming, possible bad times, but enjoy the hell out of the present good times.

Failing all else, if you are not in imminent danger, if you have shelter, food, and water, you’re going to be fine.  Just breathe, and focus on your actual options.  Pick one, carry through, and don’t over-think it.

Save.  Save.  Save.  And save some more.  Money, sadly, really does make the world go ’round.

Stop fucking around with silly shit.  If an obsession, a thing, a person, or an activity doesn’t add to your life in a positive way, drop it the hell off and go on.

Love is a wonderful, powerful thing, but it does not fill an empty stomach, and will not soothe an angry soul.

There IS no Prince Charming.  You have to be fully prepared to “save yourself”.  (If, however, you DO find a PC, find out if he has a brother…)

Learn how do to the things that you will need to be able to do in life.  Sounds simple, right?  Ok, go change your tires.  Grow a garden.  Cook a really good 5-course dinner.  Install a water line to your new fridge.  Burp your friend’s baby.  You get the point…  NOTHING is impossible…after you learn how to do it (right).

You are precious, but you’re not that special.  There are billions of people on this planet and you’re just one of them.  Get over yourself, and you’ll be hella better off.

Most people will not give a damn about you.  It’s not their job.  So, when you find someone who actually DOES care, don’t fuck them over.

You are who you are because of who you’ve been, and who you will be.  Your thoughts really do control a lot more of who you are and your potential than you could ever believe.

You are the one in charge of what you choose to allow into your mind, and once something is in there, it’s potentially there forever.  So, be careful of what you choose to read, watch, or even think.  “Brain candy” is not a thing – trite smut carries the same weight in your brain as any other thing which could become a memory, so don’t waste that brain-space on shit, smut, or slut. 

Have a little class – it won’t hurt.  I promise.

Don’t change who YOU are just to suit ANYONE else.   If they can’t accept you for who you are, then you deserve better than them.  Really, you do.  

You can’t pick your family, but you sure as hell can pick your friends.  Some people come into your life for a brief moment of time.  Some people are around for a few years, then they gradually disappear.  Some people are forever, like found brothers or sisters.  I call them angels.

If you love someone, LET THEM KNOW, DAMMIT.  You may not have another chance to.  You don’t have to be all dramatic about it, but DO let them know how important they are to you, and why, if you can.

Emotional vampires suck.  Ditch them.

Abuse is abuse, regardless of excuse. 

Really. 

If your relationship devolves in any way that’s physically, mentally, sexually, or emotionally manipulative or abusive (and sorry, but “but it only happened once” never holds – even ONCE is much too often), get the fuck out.  Now.  You, your health, and your psyche deserve better.  Yes, YOU do.

Don’t run get your camera when you see the gorgeous mountain lion in your backyard.  It’ll be gone by the time you get back.  Just enjoy God’s gift while you can.  Don’t ask how I know this.

Get off your ass and just get it done, whatever the chore is.  Dreading doing something accomplishes nothing but adds misery to your life FOR NO GOOD REASON.

Common sense…Dear God, use it.  Find it and use it like it’s going out of style.  PLEASE.

Be intolerant of abuse, of purposeful stupidity, of people purposefully being low-class.  Have some pride and dignity in your actions and your thoughts, and in the words that flow from your fingertips.

“Wishing” accomplishes absolutely nothing.  If wishing WORKED, I’d be on another dig or taking more pics off Notre Dame or having a sexy fling with Alexander Skarsgard or …  Obviously, wishing does NOT work. 

Common sense ACTION does. 

Figure out what is REALLY possible, make a REAL plan, and REALLY follow that plan.  Daydreams just cloud your vision, no matter HOW nice they are.

Change happens:

 

  • When you change, and you will, let it be because you’ve learned something new about yourself and your place in the world. 
  • When you change, and you will, let it be because you’ve found out that the “old ways” aren’t working any longer.  
  • When you change, and you will, let it be because you’ve figured out a BETTER way of being, of doing, of viewing the world, of understanding more about how it all works.
  • When you change, and you will, DO NOT BE AFRAID.

 Breathe.

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